When I was studying Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) back in 2005/06, I first encountered the “let’s heal everything” phenomenon. I would be out a dinner with my NLP friends, just sitting around and then it would happen, just like magic. Someone would be talking and then around the table would be the chorus of “Limiting belief…” etc. The analysis would begin and the processes would be flung around whether the person wanted it or not. This happened time and time again. People love to solve and heal other people’s problems.

When the movie “The Secret” came out things became really interesting. This movie is all about the Law of Attraction. Now whenever anyone in our circle of friends said anything negative not only did they get the NLP processes, but now they were hit with the Law of Attraction arsenal as well.

I started to reduce the amount of time that I spent with these friends because I never felt that I could truly be myself. I was always afraid of what would come out of my mouth and what the end result would be. Being depressed at the time, I was constantly swimming in negativity, so I would be their prime target. There was a slight problem with my plan of escaping these people. My partner was also doing all of the same courses as me and was in the same circle of friends. So although I was reducing the amount of time I spent with my friends, my partner and I would run the exact same stuff at home. Great!!

This was when I was still working through depression and as much as I love my partner, I did not enjoy the constant analysis of my behaviours and words. I was not able to say anything negative otherwise I would get a quick reminder about the Law of Attraction and how I was attracting what I didn’t want. I must be honest though, I did it too but I felt as though I was unable to talk to my partner anymore. We would constantly argue and I felt like I was slipping backwards into a darker depression again.

One day in a moment of sheer frustration and desperation, I called an urgent meeting. I needed to resolve this issue or our relationship was doomed. There was a lot of heated discussion, a few tears but in the end we came to an agreement. The outcome of this meeting was a defining moment in our relationship and has helped many other practitioners (especially practitioners that are in relationships with another practitioners) to save their relationships. The concept is simple: “Who do you need to be right now? A friend, a partner or a practitioner?”

Sometimes a person just needs to “drain the swamp”. This is when you just say everything that is on your mind. The good, the bad and the ugly. This can be quite a cathartic experience, but when my partner was in practitioner mode this was impossible to do. I didn’t need problem solving, or judgment in fact there was no treatment required, just the need for someone to be a compassionate sounding board. After we were able to clearly define our roles, things were resolved easily and we were back in the flow.

During my ThetaHealing™ journey, I have had a few teachers that have said publicly that they work on their partner and their partner works on them all the time, but in candid conversations they told me that they never allow their partner to work on them and that they never work on their partner because it complicates things. They are surprised when they see me and my partner pair up for belief work. Many people feel the need to warn us that we will break up if we work on each other too much. But isn’t that what we have these amazing tools for? What an amazing gift to be able to use on those that you love, with discernment of course.

Vianna Stibal totally respects her husbands’ free will by not imposing a healing or belief work on him. How many people do you know that try to force belief work on the people around them? Just because you see something to change in a person, it doesn’t mean that they need to change it. By clearly defining who it is that you need your partner to be or who your partner wants you to be, your life will become less complicated and your relationship will flow more freely.

Does this only work for romantic relationships? Absolutely not!! The same strategy works on friends, family and yourself as well. So next time you see someone who needs a healing or help, just ask yourself who do you need to be, a friend or practitioner?

Thanks for reading,

Love, Light and Learning.

Pauline Longdon
ThetaHealing™ Master
ThetaHealing™ Certificate of Science

www.ThetaDevas.com

People really start to doubt the existence of God because they think that it is a very one-sided conversation. But what if God, the Creator, Universe etc spoke through the things around us. Just to clarify, I am not talking about a talking toaster or if suddenly a person on TV starts talking directly to you. It can be much more subtle than that.

Every second we are bombarded with tens of millions of pieces of information but can only handle a minute fraction of all that. We have what is called a Reticular Activating System (RAS), and this is what prevents us from getting overwhelmed and overloaded. Our belief system (BS) helps to program the RAS, so if we are not noticing things maybe we need to tweak our beliefs so that we can. Remember in my last post I talked about how we create in our lives what we say about ourself, well this is a great example. What about if I were to say that God never listens or speaks to me? What would happen there, even if there was a huge booming “God” voice, my RAS would not pick it up. So on the other hand if my belief is that God always listens to me and speaks to me, it will not require a huge “God” voice to get my attention, the message can be subtle and I will receive it.

One of my strengths in life is to notice the little things (The distinction is in the noticing, not concerning, concentrating, obsessing etc, this allows me to notice and then move on.) This strength lies in a belief, and therefore it will influence my RAS. I will be out and about experiencing my day and anytime I have a question or want to know something, I just need to allow the answer to come in the way that it does.

A recent example is when I went to see the movie, Avatar. This is a really awesome movie, and it is filled with many spiriutual messages. One message that was particularly poignant was when the main character Jake was connecting to the tree of souls (Mother Goddess Ehwa) to ask for help, Neytiri said to him that the Goddess doesn’t work that way and that she only maintains the balance of life. Jake says that it couldn’t hurt to ask for help. This scene was a message to me to live without placing restrictions on the ability of The Creator and those around me. How many times have you restricted the potential of those around you or even yourself? I know I used to.

When I was on my first Advanced ThetaHealing™ Course my Teacher, who is an amazing woman, would often talk about the conversations that she was having with God/ The Creator and I sat in awe just wishing that one day I could have the same strong connection as she had. Well, I was teaching the very same course only last year when one of my students said to me that they wished that they had as strong a connection as I had. This comment made me sit up and appreciate how far I had come (yet another important message). How many people would like to be as connected as Vianna is, yet they are unaware of how connected they really are. Maybe Vianna is more open to receiving the messages than others, and if that is the case then it is only a matter of changing your beliefs to be more connected.

With my own connection, I also get messages through music. I will be thinking of an idea and a song will come on with a line of lyrics that provide me with an accurate insight. Now I know people could say that I am just making the song fit into the situation, and you know what they are right… according to them (BS and RAS). According to me, my reality is the one I need to concern myself with. I even had a person once tell me that I wasn’t getting to the 7th plane because I get messages in the form of lyrics. She said that I was working on the 6th Plane where music and tones are used. Lucky for me I am not easily influenced and her comments had no effect, because I know 100% where my messages come from. And you know what, she was only talking through her RAS!

So no matter what form or what media your messages come to you in, as long as you are looking for and open to receiving it, you will. As a novice ThetaHealing™ Practitoner, I never thought that I would be as connected as I am today. I am truly living the ThetaHealing™ Lifestyle, I am constantly connected to the 7th Plane energy and life is amazing. Everyday I notice the little things and give thanks to the messages that I am receiving, however they chose to come. And I find that the messages are a lot clearer when I take my head out of my RAS.

Thanks for reading,

Love, Light, Laughter and Learning,

Pauline Longdon

ThetaHealing™ Master and ThetaHealing™ Certificate of Science

www.ThetaDevas.com

These are very wise words and going in to the new year, they may just be the words that could make the hugest difference in your life. Already people have expectations of what 2010 has in store for them. What are you saying about the year ahead? Will it be the best year ever, will it be more of the same, will it be a year of hardship or a year of love and abundance. In 2010 will you survive or thrive?

In ThetaHealing™, Vianna Stibal teaches us about the power of our words and thoughts. When we are in a Theta State we are able to manifest things into our life at an ever quickening rate. Of course it is only us that sees things as good or bad, so maybe we need to be more cautious and focussed on what we want.

Have you ever noticed that when people say that they are bad at something, they generally are. Take for instance the person that you meet that says “You’ll have to excuse me, I am really bad at remembering names, so I will probably forget yours.” Well, I was a little like that a few years ago. When I was in the midst of depression, I used to say I had the memory of a goldfish… oh, look a rock… oh, look a rock… and so it goes on. Pretty funny, maybe now but certainly not at the time. I had lost a lot of my cognitive ability and I was going through one of the most traumatic experiences of my life. During my discharge from the Military, I had to fill out forms, and complete heaps of complicated processes that if I did them wrong, my future entitlements would be wiped, and subsequently were. I was told that I had no future and that I would always have depression. I was being discarded with little to no help or hope. Not a great outlook for a woman in her mid 30’s.

I remember hearing the quote by Henry Ford one day and its words started a great shift within me. Could it be that simple? I stopped saying that I was depressed, I started to say that I was great at remembering names, and slowly started to reassure myself that my memory was reliable. I had been saying that it felt like my brain had gone away on a holiday. I remember the day my brain came back, it was such a joyous occasion. I actually felt smart again. I completely changed what I said about myself.

During the year after I was discharged from the Army, I studied Neuro Linguistic Programming, I studied with Doreen Virtue and I was well and truly on my path with ThetaHealing™ by becoming a Practitioner. Last year I became the first ThetaHealing™ Master in Australia and this year was awarded a ThetaHealing™ Certificate of Science. All of the courses I funded myself with no assistance from the Military. I knew that my recovery from depression laid within re educating myself, and it has. Each course I complete provides me with the means to recreate my life the way I want to live it. Not too bad for a woman with no future. One of my biggest triumphs is that I now teach people how to use these very tools that have saved my life.

Another insight on being what you say you are, is the idea that people have of being a “survivor/survivour”. Anyone who knows me would know that I love the show called Survivor, but that is as far as things go. How many people do you hear that are Cancer survivors, Abuse survivors etc? For as long as they say that they are a survivor, that is all they will ever be. I am not a Depression survivor. I refused to cap my true potential at that level, I want to thrive and that is exactly what I am doing. What words do you use to describe yourself that are capping your true potential?

These days I have a great memory, I am great at math, I am free of depression, I am an awesome ThetaHealing™ Teacher and practitioner and I am abundant in all areas of my life. Even in my “trying” moments I am exactly what I say I am, so if I am not enjoying my experience I change what I am saying about myself. Thanks for reading,

Love, Light, Laughter and Learning,

Pauline Longdon

ThetaHealing™ Master and ThetaHealing™ Certificate of Science

www.ThetaDevas.com

I really love teaching ThetaHealing™ and know that this is one time in my life that I truly live my bliss. When I look at why this is the case, I am drawn to the 3 V’s. ThetaHealing™ has the same values as me, the Vision is the same, and the Vibration is amazing. So that all adds up to me having a wonderful existence. When any of the V’s are missing or what I am doing is not in alignment with my 3 V’s, then the flow slows or totally stops, the day becomes clunky and I am having to work hard to get anywhere.

This week whilst teaching a ThetaHealing™ Boot Camp (Basic and Advanced ThetaHealing™ Practitioner’s Course, and Manifesting and Abundance Course, all taught back to back) it became very obvious to me that the 3 V’s can be applied to everyone and everything. My students and I spoke at length about the times in our lives when we were out of alignment with ourselves and the resulting misery or drama.

All too often we allow other things to infiltrate our lives and when they are out of alignment with our Values, Vision and Vibration, there is a huge disparity and we are left feeling low, depressed or overwhelmed. By keeping in alignment with our 3 V’s, we can live the life we truly deserve. But we need to know what they are first. What are your Values, Vision and Vibration?? Maybe you need to have a closer look at yourself and your life.

In her teachings for ThetaHealing™, Vianna Stibal talks about the importance of the 3 R’s. Resentments, Regrets, and Rejections. To be able to clear these is an amazing way to heal yourself. I have cleared an enormous amount of “stuff” using these simple yet effective procedures, and firmly believe that they are the very reason that I am able to be as clear as I am. And now to be able to implement the three V’s adds a whole new dimension to my life. I am better equipped to honor myself and my souls journey, and live without the distractions that I allowed to rule my life previously.

So next time something doesn’t quite feel right, check in with the 3 V’s. When you are in full alignment with them, you will be in your flow.

Thanks for reading,

Love, Light, Laughter and Learning,

Pauline Longdon

ThetaHealing™ Master and ThetaHealing™ Certificate of Science

www.ThetaDevas.com