Empowering People to Resurrect their Lifestyle Dreams from their Financial Ashes

One of the things that I have noticed since starting my journey into the healing arts is that everyone wants to heal everyone and everything. This is not always a bad thing, but it is definitely not always a good thing either. There are sometimes that it is just not appropriate to be healing everything and one of these times is when your partner needs you to be their partner or friend.

When I was studying Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) back in 2005/06, I first encountered the “let’s heal everything” phenomenon. I would be out a dinner with my NLP friends, just sitting around and then it would happen, just like magic. Someone would be talking and then around the table would be the chorus of “Limiting belief…” etc. The analysis would begin and the processes would be flung around whether the person wanted it or not. This happened time and time again. People love to solve and heal other people’s problems.

When the movie “The Secret” came out things became really interesting. This movie is all about the Law of Attraction. Now whenever anyone in our circle of friends said anything negative not only did they get the NLP processes, but now they were hit with the Law of Attraction arsenal as well.

I started to reduce the amount of time that I spent with these friends because I never felt that I could truly be myself. I was always afraid of what would come out of my mouth and what the end result would be. Being depressed at the time, I was constantly swimming in negativity, so I would be their prime target. There was a slight problem with my plan of escaping these people. My partner was also doing all of the same courses as me and was in the same circle of friends. So although I was reducing the amount of time I spent with my friends, my partner and I would run the exact same stuff at home. Great!!

This was when I was still working through depression and as much as I love my partner, I did not enjoy the constant analysis of my behaviours and words. I was not able to say anything negative otherwise I would get a quick reminder about the Law of Attraction and how I was attracting what I didn’t want. I must be honest though, I did it too but I felt as though I was unable to talk to my partner anymore. We would constantly argue and I felt like I was slipping backwards into a darker depression again.

One day in a moment of sheer frustration and desperation, I called an urgent meeting. I needed to resolve this issue or our relationship was doomed. There was a lot of heated discussion, a few tears but in the end we came to an agreement. The outcome of this meeting was a defining moment in our relationship and has helped many other practitioners (especially practitioners that are in relationships with another practitioners) to save their relationships. The concept is simple: “Who do you need to be right now? A friend, a partner or a practitioner?”

Sometimes a person just needs to “drain the swamp”. This is when you just say everything that is on your mind. The good, the bad and the ugly. This can be quite a cathartic experience, but when my partner was in practitioner mode this was impossible to do. I didn’t need problem solving, or judgment in fact there was no treatment required, just the need for someone to be a compassionate sounding board. After we were able to clearly define our roles, things were resolved easily and we were back in the flow.

During my ThetaHealing™ journey, I have had a few teachers that have said publicly that they work on their partner and their partner works on them all the time, but in candid conversations they told me that they never allow their partner to work on them and that they never work on their partner because it complicates things. They are surprised when they see me and my partner pair up for belief work. Many people feel the need to warn us that we will break up if we work on each other too much. But isn’t that what we have these amazing tools for? What an amazing gift to be able to use on those that you love, with discernment of course.

Vianna Stibal totally respects her husbands’ free will by not imposing a healing or belief work on him. How many people do you know that try to force belief work on the people around them? Just because you see something to change in a person, it doesn’t mean that they need to change it. By clearly defining who it is that you need your partner to be or who your partner wants you to be, your life will become less complicated and your relationship will flow more freely.

Does this only work for romantic relationships? Absolutely not!! The same strategy works on friends, family and yourself as well. So next time you see someone who needs a healing or help, just ask yourself who do you need to be, a friend or practitioner?

Thanks for reading,

Love, Light and Learning.

Pauline Longdon
ThetaHealing™ Master
ThetaHealing™ Certificate of Science

www.ThetaDevas.com

So many people say to me that they are waiting for a sign or a message from the Creator, The Universe etc but they never seem to get them. This is an interesting dilemma. Is it that there isn’t a message being sent or is it that the person is not open to receiving it? Or do they just try to over think it or over analyse it.

People really start to doubt the existence of God because they think that it is a very one-sided conversation. But what if God, the Creator, Universe etc spoke through the things around us. Just to clarify, I am not talking about a talking toaster or if suddenly a person on TV starts talking directly to you. It can be much more subtle than that.

Every second we are bombarded with tens of millions of pieces of information but can only handle a minute fraction of all that. We have what is called a Reticular Activating System (RAS), and this is what prevents us from getting overwhelmed and overloaded. Our belief system (BS) helps to program the RAS, so if we are not noticing things maybe we need to tweak our beliefs so that we can. Remember in my last post I talked about how we create in our lives what we say about ourself, well this is a great example. What about if I were to say that God never listens or speaks to me? What would happen there, even if there was a huge booming “God” voice, my RAS would not pick it up. So on the other hand if my belief is that God always listens to me and speaks to me, it will not require a huge “God” voice to get my attention, the message can be subtle and I will receive it.

One of my strengths in life is to notice the little things (The distinction is in the noticing, not concerning, concentrating, obsessing etc, this allows me to notice and then move on.) This strength lies in a belief, and therefore it will influence my RAS. I will be out and about experiencing my day and anytime I have a question or want to know something, I just need to allow the answer to come in the way that it does.

A recent example is when I went to see the movie, Avatar. This is a really awesome movie, and it is filled with many spiriutual messages. One message that was particularly poignant was when the main character Jake was connecting to the tree of souls (Mother Goddess Ehwa) to ask for help, Neytiri said to him that the Goddess doesn’t work that way and that she only maintains the balance of life. Jake says that it couldn’t hurt to ask for help. This scene was a message to me to live without placing restrictions on the ability of The Creator and those around me. How many times have you restricted the potential of those around you or even yourself? I know I used to.

When I was on my first Advanced ThetaHealing™ Course my Teacher, who is an amazing woman, would often talk about the conversations that she was having with God/ The Creator and I sat in awe just wishing that one day I could have the same strong connection as she had. Well, I was teaching the very same course only last year when one of my students said to me that they wished that they had as strong a connection as I had. This comment made me sit up and appreciate how far I had come (yet another important message). How many people would like to be as connected as Vianna is, yet they are unaware of how connected they really are. Maybe Vianna is more open to receiving the messages than others, and if that is the case then it is only a matter of changing your beliefs to be more connected.

With my own connection, I also get messages through music. I will be thinking of an idea and a song will come on with a line of lyrics that provide me with an accurate insight. Now I know people could say that I am just making the song fit into the situation, and you know what they are right… according to them (BS and RAS). According to me, my reality is the one I need to concern myself with. I even had a person once tell me that I wasn’t getting to the 7th plane because I get messages in the form of lyrics. She said that I was working on the 6th Plane where music and tones are used. Lucky for me I am not easily influenced and her comments had no effect, because I know 100% where my messages come from. And you know what, she was only talking through her RAS!

So no matter what form or what media your messages come to you in, as long as you are looking for and open to receiving it, you will. As a novice ThetaHealing™ Practitoner, I never thought that I would be as connected as I am today. I am truly living the ThetaHealing™ Lifestyle, I am constantly connected to the 7th Plane energy and life is amazing. Everyday I notice the little things and give thanks to the messages that I am receiving, however they chose to come. And I find that the messages are a lot clearer when I take my head out of my RAS.

Thanks for reading,

Love, Light, Laughter and Learning,

Pauline Longdon

ThetaHealing™ Master and ThetaHealing™ Certificate of Science

www.ThetaDevas.com