Empowering People to Resurrect their Lifestyle Dreams from their Financial Ashes

One of the things that I have noticed since starting my journey into the healing arts is that everyone wants to heal everyone and everything. This is not always a bad thing, but it is definitely not always a good thing either. There are sometimes that it is just not appropriate to be healing everything and one of these times is when your partner needs you to be their partner or friend.

When I was studying Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) back in 2005/06, I first encountered the “let’s heal everything” phenomenon. I would be out a dinner with my NLP friends, just sitting around and then it would happen, just like magic. Someone would be talking and then around the table would be the chorus of “Limiting belief…” etc. The analysis would begin and the processes would be flung around whether the person wanted it or not. This happened time and time again. People love to solve and heal other people’s problems.

When the movie “The Secret” came out things became really interesting. This movie is all about the Law of Attraction. Now whenever anyone in our circle of friends said anything negative not only did they get the NLP processes, but now they were hit with the Law of Attraction arsenal as well.

I started to reduce the amount of time that I spent with these friends because I never felt that I could truly be myself. I was always afraid of what would come out of my mouth and what the end result would be. Being depressed at the time, I was constantly swimming in negativity, so I would be their prime target. There was a slight problem with my plan of escaping these people. My partner was also doing all of the same courses as me and was in the same circle of friends. So although I was reducing the amount of time I spent with my friends, my partner and I would run the exact same stuff at home. Great!!

This was when I was still working through depression and as much as I love my partner, I did not enjoy the constant analysis of my behaviours and words. I was not able to say anything negative otherwise I would get a quick reminder about the Law of Attraction and how I was attracting what I didn’t want. I must be honest though, I did it too but I felt as though I was unable to talk to my partner anymore. We would constantly argue and I felt like I was slipping backwards into a darker depression again.

One day in a moment of sheer frustration and desperation, I called an urgent meeting. I needed to resolve this issue or our relationship was doomed. There was a lot of heated discussion, a few tears but in the end we came to an agreement. The outcome of this meeting was a defining moment in our relationship and has helped many other practitioners (especially practitioners that are in relationships with another practitioners) to save their relationships. The concept is simple: “Who do you need to be right now? A friend, a partner or a practitioner?”

Sometimes a person just needs to “drain the swamp”. This is when you just say everything that is on your mind. The good, the bad and the ugly. This can be quite a cathartic experience, but when my partner was in practitioner mode this was impossible to do. I didn’t need problem solving, or judgment in fact there was no treatment required, just the need for someone to be a compassionate sounding board. After we were able to clearly define our roles, things were resolved easily and we were back in the flow.

During my ThetaHealing™ journey, I have had a few teachers that have said publicly that they work on their partner and their partner works on them all the time, but in candid conversations they told me that they never allow their partner to work on them and that they never work on their partner because it complicates things. They are surprised when they see me and my partner pair up for belief work. Many people feel the need to warn us that we will break up if we work on each other too much. But isn’t that what we have these amazing tools for? What an amazing gift to be able to use on those that you love, with discernment of course.

Vianna Stibal totally respects her husbands’ free will by not imposing a healing or belief work on him. How many people do you know that try to force belief work on the people around them? Just because you see something to change in a person, it doesn’t mean that they need to change it. By clearly defining who it is that you need your partner to be or who your partner wants you to be, your life will become less complicated and your relationship will flow more freely.

Does this only work for romantic relationships? Absolutely not!! The same strategy works on friends, family and yourself as well. So next time you see someone who needs a healing or help, just ask yourself who do you need to be, a friend or practitioner?

Thanks for reading,

Love, Light and Learning.

Pauline Longdon
ThetaHealing™ Master
ThetaHealing™ Certificate of Science

www.ThetaDevas.com